It is always instructional to sit back and have a look at things from a different perspective. One of the hardest things to do is be objective about yourself. We all have a self-image which we use in our daily lives. Rightly or wrongly this self-image governs our day to day actions, relationships, failures and successes. How often have you met that truly talented person who has such a low opinion of themselves, or on the other hand, that super confident individual who seems to have little to base that confidence on?
How we judge ourselves and others is part of the human condition. Comparison and contrast have a profound effect on how we see the world. It effects our actions in subtle and often unconscious ways. Why do we find one person attractive and another unattractive? Why does someone else see the complete opposite?
Knowing that contrast and comparison is an important thing to understand can help us make the best of our talents and opportunities that present themselves as we go through our lives.
I am not a big fan of political correctness. I think it is impossible not to discriminate, make judgments and be shallow and callous on occasions. It is part of being a human being to make snap decisions. It is often said that we make up our minds about someone within the first 5 seconds of meeting them. I remember a time when meeting someone with a tattoo would mean to me that this person was probably a criminal, part of a bikie gang or just plain stupid. For me to keep that attitude would mean I wouldn’t have many friends now as some of my nearest and dearest have tattoos.
Which brings me to the point of this article. Are we making the best use of our talents and opportunities through having an unhelpful self-image of ourselves and how does that influence our relationships with other people?
Marty Morris CEO of MMI Pty Ltd is one of the most awesome people I have ever met. What really impresses me about him is the clear self-image he has of himself. This translates into having a clear vision of what is going on inside other individuals. This helps him to guide, coach and mentor others by helping them see what their self-image could be and helping them transform their lives.
Tony Robbins, Brian Tracey and other great personal development experts also show people how to improve their self-image. This one aspect of our thoughts is the main thing that holds us back from having a better life.
How often do you say in your head through your self-image, I couldn’t do that, or I am not smart enough, or I am not lucky or the worst thing all together, I might/will/always fail so why bother.
Having someone you can rely on to tell you the truth about yourself, both the good and the bad is one of the great strategies to moving yourself towards an awesome life. These people hold you to account. They help you see your true self. They kill your excuses. They don’t take no for an answer. They encourage you to take a chance, fail sometimes (which is a learning opportunity) and aim higher.
Buy myself. This is the key. There is only one you. Have confidence in yourself. The one person in your life that you will never be able to get away from. The one person with all those talents, faults and failings you must carry around with you day to day. If you invest in your self-development you will be so much more. I see so many people complaining about their lives on social media and know that in a lot of cases they are just making excuses for their underachievement. This is the cop out. Better to complain then do something about it.
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