I am constantly amazed at how many people say to me ” I hate my work/job/boss” or in fact all three. I usually ask them, why do you stay there?
I get many answers to that question such as:
- I need the money
- Other jobs are hard to find
- I don’t have any other skills
- Bosses just expect you to work for pittance
- Etc. Etc.
Basically there are a million reasons people give. I think though, there is one common factor that fuels resistance to changing your work circumstances and that issue is “YOUR COMFORT ZONE”
Many of you would be familiar with the concept of the “comfort zone”. You know that lovely place where opportunity meets resistance and resistance wins. Yes, I would like to earn more. Yes, I would like work that’s fun and exciting. Yes, I’d like to learn new skills. But, no, that new place might be just a bit too challenging and a bit scary.
The difference between a highly successful individual and the average person is the size of their comfort zone. It has nothing to do with your looks, height, weight, brains or upbringing. Sure these things can count against you. My modeling career never came to anything being a skinny, freckly faced redhead with a body that clothes sort of hung off. There are plenty of examples of people who have had great success despite handicaps that ordinarily one would think would mean a life of failure.
If you don’t have the money, success or joy you feel you deserve it will almost certainly be your inability to stretch yourself. To have the courage to fail, but to never give up when success eludes you.
So how do you make your comfort zone bigger.
- Decide too. Self improvement and personal development don’t just happen. It is a conscious process driven by knowledge. The more you learn about strategies to stretch your comfort zone the more you can develop a plan of action to implement to change your circumstances.
- Acknowledge your discomfort. Think long and hard about what makes you happy and what doesn’t. Get a piece of paper and divide it in two. At the top of each side write” What makes me happy” and “What makes me unhappy”. The happy side will identify what makes you happy and what you want more of. The unhappy side will identify those areas we need to eliminate from our life. We should now be able to take this information and identify what we want more of and what we want less of. Use this to do step three which is:
- Set Goals. Yes, the old “set goals again” mantra. Most of us never set goals for the really important things we want in our lives, but use small goals everyday to get our stuff done. Some of us have the great ambition to watch TV, lounge on the sofa and chill out. Well, if that is your goal it is certainly very easy to achieve. It hardly however, earns you more income, helps build relationships or empowers you to find work that excites and rewards you for what you are capable of, or deserve. Find ten big things you would like to achieve over the next year. Look at that list everyday, at least three times a day. Change them if you need to if your desires change. Put pictures up around your house to remind you of what you want. Most of all, get them fixed in your mind as your ultimate desire.
My organization helps people overcome their fears and has the knowledge and tools to help you become someone you never thought you could become. For more information on stretching your comfort zone email me today at Michael@t3australia.com.au or visit our website at www.t3australia.com.au .